Womanhood
So the first thing you have to do is accept that, despite appearances, you’re not all that different than most people your age. The mid to late 20s are often an apex of friendless desperation. To make matters worse, people feel very self-conscious about their friendlessness at that age, as if everything should’ve fallen into place a long time ago. Considering how often urban, is there any creature alive with higher, more impossible standards than a 28 year old? The only difference between a 28 year old woman and a 38 year old woman is that one of them tries to hide how few friends she has, and the other will email you out of the blue and demand to hang out after meeting you for exactly four seconds in a room full of retired people and divorced people and new moms.
The late 30s woman knows that it’s no big deal to want to make new friends. Maybe it won’t be a life-changing time, or maybe you’ll be acquaintances, or maybe you’ll be vacationing together down the road. It’s worth a shot. So the second thing I want you to know is that, in order to make very close friends in a natural, organic way, you have to cast a wide net and be accepting and give it time. You can’t use the aggressive, early twenty something’s tactics, because it poisons the whole process to believe that you’re trying to hunt and trap the perfect BFE. Scrape those curly fries out of your mind. Some of your closest, lifelong friends may not seem like close…
